10 Sep Is Integrity One of Your Values?
Making a big change in life can be really scary. It doesn’t matter whether we’re talking about getting a new job, starting a new relationship, or even buying a new home. We worry about whether our decision is a good one, and what might happen if we’re wrong.
Of course, we don’t have a magic 8-ball to tell us that the future looks bright, or the outlook is bleak. We can’t see into the future and know for certain that our choices are absolutely the best.
But we do have the tools to make the process easier . . . just ask, “Is this in line with my values?”
I don’t mean that you should consider the ethics of the decision. My guess is, that isn’t an issue! Your goal is to figure out exactly what you value in a job, a home, or a partner . . . and then make sure your choices are in line with those values.
Are you trying to decide what kind of job you want next? Are you concerned about the commute? The hours? The location? Do you want to work individually from home, or do you want an office with lots of team work? Do you want to be your own boss, or do you want to work for someone else? Do you want a steady paycheck every two weeks, or are you fine with an unsteady paycheck th
at might have the opportunity for awesome earning potential?
Are you trying to find a partner in life? What activities do you want to do with your partner? What are your values about money in a relationship? Do you want children or not? How much time do you want to spend with your partner, and how much alone time do you need?
I think you get the picture. Taking the time to establish your values helps you make decisions that are the best for you. When you’re evaluating a choice, you have something specific to measure it by. If the option you are considering doesn’t align with your top most important values, it won’t make you happy in the long run.
And just as a side note … people often tell me that “integrity” is one of their highest values. But what does that mean? Are you able to define integrity? Because if you’re like me, you’ll often notice other people who say they have high integrity … just before they commit a transgression against someone else. So if you consider integrity one of your values, take a moment to write down three sentences about what integrity means to you … and how you wish others around you to express their own integrity.
Have you ever considered that a break up happens – a break up with a love partner, a business partner, or even a friend – because of a conflict in values? Very often it comes down to “integrity” (however you define it for yourself).
Having integrity clearly defined will help you make countless decisions that otherwise might have you stuck.
The best part of all this is . . . these are YOUR values. Others may disagree, but it is important to remember that this is about making YOU happy . . . not someone else. And when you get clear on your values, you begin to create the fabulous life you want to live!
List your top five values – these could be general values (or you can also create values for different areas of your life).
Reflect on a decision that you’re trying to make right now. How can your top five values assist you in this decision? Does your decision honor all five of your most important values?