10 Dec Unleash Your Greatness through the Power of Authenticity: Part 3
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Living authentically is not just about how you show up for others, but rather about how you show up in every aspect of your life. This especially means how you show up for you.
You cannot live authentically if you are not acting in integrity with yourself and not paying attention to your needs. As a woman, you may be conditioned to put everyone else first. You may believe that being selfish is ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’.
Trust me, taking care of you is essential to your health and well-being, and if you want to live authentically, you need to learn how to listen to yourself and be authentic with yourself. That means you must make yourself a priority in your own life, tend to your needs, and learn how to ask for what you need.
If you are still thinking it is bad or wrong, consider this… if your needs are not being met, you will create problems for yourself and those around you. If your hard work is not recognized, you may become passive aggressive and create conflict in the relationship. If you neglect your physical needs in lieu of others, you may become ill and be forced to let others take care of you. If you are a mom and you do NOT take care of yourself, what are you teaching your children? I could go on, but you get the point…
To live authentically means to be in integrity with yourself and others at all times. To be in integrity means to listen to and take care of yourself.
Here are just a few examples of needs that must be met:
- To be acknowledged
- To be safe
- To be loved
- To be heard
- To be nurtured
- To be supported
What are your needs and are they being met? And here’s the big question – are you actively taking steps to meet your needs or advocate for yourself and your needs? Or are you simply hoping or expecting others will do it for you?
(One final thought – are you too focused on your own needs, when someone else’s need are truly more important in this moment?)
Get clear on the areas of your life where your needs are (and are not) being met. If you’re not sure how to figure it out, here’s a simple question: what aspects of your life are happy, fulfilling and joyful? What aspects of your life have you frustrated, angry or upset?
Write it out and explore which needs are not being met in those areas. How is it affecting you and your life, both internally and externally?
As you identify those needs that are not being met, make a commitment to yourself to take steps to get your needs met.
What can you do to meet your needs? Where do you need to advocate for yourself to get your needs met?
If this is new for you, it may be challenging. Trust me, though. YOU ARE WORTH IT!
I’d love to hear about it, so please leave a comment on how it is working out for you.
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