01 Aug Emotional Abuse
– My true story of monkeys, a half-cigar, and the German Shepherd that saved the day in the Texas house where I grew up –
Invalidation is a form of emotional abuse when someone “takes you down a notch” by branding you unreasonable, illogical or wrong. Or telling you through their words or actions that You. Don’t. Matter.
The result? You feel discredited, crippled, even totally nullified.
There’s really no way to give invalidation its due without being offensive, because, when you get right down to it, invalidation is offensive. It takes you – in all your strength and glory and greatness – and cuts you off at the knees.
Invalidating people are pretty much the crème de la crap of our society. Which is probably why the hardest time to handle invalidation is when it shows up in a clever disguise, all dressed up as a well-meaning person who appears to have your best interests at heart.
Because sometimes, invalidation is hidden as someone else imposes their own view of the world on you – and maybe even try to control or influence you.
The good news is, even after emotional abuse, you can learn to turn things around and begin to validate yourself – you can look for the answer to the question, “What did I learn?” instead of “What did I do wrong?” Because when you look with optimism toward the future, when you stop bashing yourself over the head for past mistakes and instead grab hold of what is good and real and true inside of you, you get YOU back.
In this week’s episode, you’ll also learn:
- What IS emotional abuse (or am I just too sensitive)?
- How can I know if someone has a hidden agenda?
- Is there a more empowering question than “What did I do wrong”?
You might also enjoy last week’s episode:https://remychausse.com/ghosting-is-emotional-abuse/
These are spiritual lessons with a practical edge. You can also listen in for the short exercise that’s designed to help you implement this week’s topic.
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